In last week’s post, I discussed one powerful way to deal with stable misery in your relationship. To recap, you might be living in stable misery if: Your relationship feels bearable but unfulfilling. You want your relationship to thrive but you’re too emotionally, mentally, or...
"From the moment that [two partners] are united by their karma, they should spend every moment in search of harmony." -Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche Earlier in our marriage, my husband and I would often find ourselves in a “roommate rut.” During these times, we'd live, not like a...
Hard Earth? Till your Family's Soil! When we till or cultivate the soil in our gardens, we break up the dry crusty hard earth on the top so that air, nutrients, and water, can get to the roots. Only at this point, can new life sprout through the earths surface (ref). Similarly,...
I Am: To your other question, Tiev, who are you? You are a divine creation. Tiev: My family said, 'This you cannot be!' replied Tiev, her back now straighter and taller. I Am: Tiev, do not let others define what they did not create. Look at your...
Hard Earth? Spark Fire! VISUALIZE THIS! You‘re exploring the forest and decide to camp for the night. You use the last bit of daylight to find wood and start a fire. You then realize you have no fire so you go to nature to seek guidance....
Hard Earth? Blow Air! Visualize this! You’re walking through the desert and notice endless sand dunes you need to climb. You crawl and “power struggle” up and down each mountainous mass only to notice your energy and motivation fading with each step. Just when you’re about...
HARD EARTH? POUR WATER! Visualize this! You’re walking along and spot a plot of hard cracked earth. One small sprout has pushed through letting you know that the earth is capable of supporting life and growth. You feel drawn to the land and its sprout, so...
LET'S PAINT THE SCENE: The day starts off beautifully. Birds are singing. The sun is shining. You feel refreshed. You’re excited to greet a new day! You go to wake your beautiful sleeping “Angel” child ...
Last week I told my daughter to do something and she didn’t listen. I heard my husband instinctively say, “when an adult tells you to do something, you do it!” In that moment, I felt two sides clash within me: Side 1 said, “YEAH! She’s the child...
... Or Daddy Guilt? Or Partner Guilt? Ya know those voices in your head that say things like... “You’re not spending enough time with your family.” “You’re kids are going to go from ‘kiddo to college’ in no time flat and you’ll miss everything in between.” “If...